Self-confidence, at its core, means not being dependent on others’ perspectives and judgments.
Ten actions that undermine self-confidence:
In speech:
- Speaking words that cause harm
- Lying or distorting truth
- Creating discord through divisive speech
- Speaking without value or purpose
In action:
- Harming others’ health or life
- Damaging others’ property
- Disrupting others’ relationships and family
In intention:
- Acting despite knowing it is wrong
- Failing to act when knowing something is right
- Acting without sufficient information
These behaviors create mental disturbance and make you dependent on others’ judgments. True self-confidence comes from resolving problems in your own mind without creating new ones.